“S” & “ING”

When in the illustrious world of DATE, there are some terms that can get you tripped up. I’m not going to get too deep into this, just throw out a few points of discussion for you and your friends…..

Ok, here we go! When you go with someone for the first time to have coffee, it’s not really a date; it’s more like a screening..it’s true, don’t laugh! When you step up, ask them out (which I will dedicate a blog too in the future) it’s called a date. When you ask them out for a second date, you have now gone on a couple of date”S” and after a few consecutive date”S” you move from the “S” world to the “ING” world. It all depends on the level of consistency, commitment and compatibility... Let’s take a look at what the levels we go through in this.

Now in the “S” world there is a whole different set of rules to abide by. And in many cases these rules are defined differently by the parties involved. It's possible and in some cases acceptable that you might have another screening, or even another date... I’m not here to define the rules within the rule, but really just to mention that the “S” world is out there, and you might be in it.

The “ING” world also has a set of rules. Frequently the “ING” world will incur a stricter set of guidelines that generally will involve what we call the DTR(defining the relationship). In the “ING” world, you probably are only going out with one person. In “ING” you have probably determined that this is someone that is a good fit for many of the things you are looking for in a mate, this is a great step! (applause now:). This is generally right before you introduce the person as your “significant other”.

Now, if you have gotten to this point, Don’t freeze up, it’s just part of the process! YEAH YOU! You have successfully passed the screening, the date, the “S” world the “ING” world and now you are cruising on the “SHIP” world- the relation”ship” world. I’ve heard a different letter slip into that world, but this is a “G” rated blog. So, bounce these ideas around in your head, laugh out loud…take a look at where you are, laugh again…Let’s assign the right ending, whatever that might be!

The rest of the story(conclusion of last weeks tale) :

Well of course I never spoke with her outside of her monthly phone call, I would have remembered meeting her or telling her about my dog, friends, roomates etc... But my roommate who happens to also be named Mike used to talk to her all the time when she came by since he was at home. When shemade appointments with me, and talked to him at the house she thought we were the same person. ….I know, anticlimactic! Mystery Solved, my roommate was the special customer...